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Lisa Renee's avatar

Great interview! The "what do you do" question has bedeviled me so much I wrote about it. To quote:

"I heard a story about a woman, the wife of a professor, who gave up her own academic career to stay home with her kids. At university events, she was often asked: “What do you do?”

Her honest response - “I stay home with my kids” - was met with disinterest and dismissal often enough that she changed the answer, mostly to entertain herself and manage her indignation.

“My brother and his wife were killed in a horrible accident and I’m raising their children.”

She was suddenly the center of attention, a noble and generous heroine. It’s interesting commentary about the value placed on our work. Raising our own kids, we are unpaid and underappreciated. Raising someone else’s, we are exalted (though still generally unpaid). Our currency is tied either to paychecks or saintliness. I had neither."

https://open.substack.com/pub/longmiddle/p/what-do-you-do?r=j2fm&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

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Sarah Copeland's avatar

such a good, powerful interview and I feel we are just brushing the surface of so many topics that need unearthed to service the next generation of mothers, to give them something better than the puzzle we're living.

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