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Feb 1Liked by Sara Fredman

An absolute force of a conversation. I was breathless. I can't wait to read this book! Men cannot stand women writers, because men cannot risk being around women who tell the truth, unashamed.

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Oof. This really hits home for me “ I recently started dating somebody who was like, ‘Well, I don't know how to handle your writing.’ I was like, ‘I don't know how you handle my writing either. I don't know why it has to be something you have to handle.’” That’s been so many of my relationships, and it truly discouraged me from writing at all. I’m embarrassed to admit that.

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Don't be! It's a real thing!

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Feb 7·edited Feb 7Liked by Sara Fredman

I'm a songwriter and have experienced many men being attracted to me partly *because* of my work, and then also offended/upset/angry when it continued to take precedence once we were together. Thank you for this. Can't wait for your book, Lyz!

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Loved this conversation and can’t wait to read the book. Couldn’t help but think about Anatomy of a Fall as I read this. A must watch if you haven’t seen it yet - but I’ve found the relationship in that movie is somewhat of a Rorschach test for how people think about division of labor/gender dynamics. Thanks for this!

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Omg yes. Convo on Anatomy of a Fall coming in the next interview!

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This was a great interview - thank you for sharing it!

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Thanks for reading!

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Preordered the book! Can’t wait to dive in. Thank you Lyz 💖

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"They totted up the pans scoured, the towels picked off the bathroom floor, the loads of laundry done in a lifetime. Cooking a meal could only be "dogwork," and to claim any pleasure from it was evidence of craven acquiescence in one's own forced labor. Small children could only be odious mechanisms for the spilling and digesting of food, for robbing women of their "freedom." It was a long way from Simone de Beauvoir's grave and awesome recognition of woman's role as "the Other" to the notion that the first step in changing that role was Alix Kates Shulman's marriage contract ("wife strips beds, husband remakes them") reproduced in Ms; but it was toward just such trivialization that the women's movement seemed to be heading… it wrenches the heart to read about these women in their brave new lives…. the astral discontent with actual lives, actual men, the denial of the real ambiguities and the real generative or malignant possibilities of adult sexual life, somehow touches beyond words.”

Joan Didion.

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Wow

Thank you

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I loved this interview!! Thank you, Sara and Lyz. I can’t wait to read Lux’s book.

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